Everyone’s world turned upside down in March, and it’s taken me a long time to adjust my focus to improve my mental health. For the first 6 months, I felt stuck mentally, emotionally and physically with no end in sight. I felt like there was nothing to look forward to especially after our first trip overseas to Scotland was cancelled and not being able to meet my second nephew after his birth. I had low motivation to move my body, I lacked focus on my business to push it to the next level and this total groundhog day feeling consumed my thoughts and I couldn’t move past it. Full time virtual school for my children was also adding to my mental load and then my business workload just dropped off to a near standstill. So what do you do when you feel like the world is closing in on you?
As the season started to shift into Fall, September came, my 38th birthday was approaching and I felt the tide start to change. I knew I had to prioritize where I focused my time and my energy so I slowly added things that felt good to my day and removed the ones that didn’t.
- I started meditating longer and have been every day.
I’ve meditated using the Calm app on and off for a long time, but I only ever found myself using it for the 10 daily calm session. I realized that wasn’t long enough to clear all the clutter in my brain and let go of all the stress and negativity that had been building day after day. So I moved to doing the daily calm and then added another 20 minute session after that and it made a world of difference! I can’t believe how much lighter I feel, the stress in my neck that has persisted for the longest time is ebbing and I look forward to those 30 minutes in my big comfy bedroom chair so much. It is my non-negotiable that I want to continue with as long as I can because I like the person I am when I meditate. If my emotional well-being is in a better place, then I can take better care of my people – my family and my clients.
- I removed the News app from my phone and reduced the amount of time I’ve been scrolling on social media.
It was so scary once I started looking at my screen time, I realized how much of my day I was squandering – watching other people’s lives, perfectly styled everything, negative stories… it all compounds and takes a huge toll on my mental health. Once I reduced my time there, it opened time for the things that made my day better rather than moving the needle in the opposite direction. Find what feels good and strike a balance of smart consumption and start living your life for you rather than on a screen!
- I made moving my body a priority.
I’ve worked out fairly regularly for the last 6 years or so, mainly walking and doing Barre3 which I completely loved and it got me through for a long time. But I started to feel like it wasn’t pushing me or challenging me in the way I needed, or giving me any results that I was looking for. With my subscription running out, I shifted to something that I already had but stopped doing a few years ago – Tracy Anderson Metamorphosis. I felt that name of the program was calling to me and just what I needed. I wanted something that would create change — in my mind and my body. I’m 21 days in and I can already feel the difference. I feel so much stronger, and more dedicated than ever to make it a priority. I’ve set a mental time of 3pm to work out 5 days a week. I have been on this schedule for over a month and I love the way I feel. Create the time to take care of your body, it will give back to you in more ways than you can imagine!
- I’m investing in the future of my business.
I’ve been feeling stuck business-wise for a while and since I’ve had a lot of downtime I knew it was time to start investing more time and money in my business. I signed up for The Designer Essentials Kit and Amplify Shopify to get my client process nailed down and to start learning Shopify. I felt like now is the ideal time to take on a new platform as so many businesses need to move into online sales due to the pandemic. I’m looking forward to helping people move their amazing products into the e-commerce space with quality brand and website design that reflects them. Focus on where you want to go with your business or career, and invest the time and money into it so that down the road you can reap the benefits of time well spent.
- I’m reading more books.
I’ve always loved reading, and I feel like consuming social media took over the time I use to spend devoted to it. So I picked up some books that have intrigued me for a while and I’m so glad that I did. The most impactful have been The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham and Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires by Ester and Jerry Hicks. They’ve really shifted my perspective and now I’m focusing on good feeling thoughts and always finding a way to get to that good feeling place. I’m looking forward to practicing these methods more in my daily life to really see how it all unfolds and what the universe has in store. What you consume dictates your thoughts, so choose accordingly.
So today, I’m concentrating on the good that the pandemic has brought me rather than what it is taking away. I’m going inward to heal, find motivation and manifest the life I want and not living by default. I’m savoring the extra time that I have been given with my children and husband to form a deeper connection and finding the same within myself so I can give back to them from a good place. I hope these few things I’ve done to shift my perspective can help you move toward finding things that feels good for you!
“Deliberately guiding your thoughts is the key to a joyful life, but a desire to feel joy is the best plan of all . . . because in the reaching for joy, you find the thoughts that attract the wonderful life you desire.”